WE ARE CHILDFREE

I am living my dream life in Portugal right now.

Originally I’m from Germany but since surfing is my passion. I always wanted to live by the ocean and in the sun.

When I was 34, I had to decide, whether or not I will leave Germany and move. It wasn’t an easy decision but I was so happy that I had to consider no other person except myself. I was still single and without kids and that gave me the freedom to follow my dream.

I never wanted kids. and I honestly don’t even like them. When I was 8 years old, my own mother died of cancer and my dad was alone with me and my two older sisters. So psychologically, there could be many reasons, why I don’t want kids:

1. I don’t want to put “my kid” through the pain of losing its mother, in case I die as well.
2. I saw how hard it was for my sick mother, to hide her suffering from us kids.
3. I had to give up my own childhood and grow up super fast, so I wouldn’t be an extra burden for my dad.

But there are also other reasons, why I don’t want kids.

I don’t want to be bound to and responsible for someone for such a long time of my life. If you have a kid your “me time” is basically over, and I need so much “me time”. I am also very sensitive to noises and energies and I think that is why I don’t like kids. A lot of them are loud and they need a lot of attention. I just don’t have the energy for kids.

I love that I can freely decide every day, how my day will look like and take time for myself, whenever I need it.