WE ARE CHILDFREE

I knew from the time I was a child that I did not want children.

Looking back, there was no defining moment or a switch that flipped, it’s just who I always knew I was at my core.

I began having reproductive health issues as a teenager that escalated into adulthood.

Living in the American South, where a woman’s worth is still primarily viewed through motherhood, I quickly discovered it was more daunting than I thought to find a doctor that would give me what I desperately wanted: a hysterectomy.

There is nothing more frustrating than having ovarian cysts rupture on a monthly basis, having a tumor on your uterus that causes significant pain, and having endometriosis, all while every doctor you see turns you away because ‘what if you change your mind and want children?’

When I finally found a doctor that put MY health before the health of a child that would never exist, I cried tears of joy I hadn’t known were possible. The relief of feeling validated in my choice to not have children, combined with knowing I’d live the rest of my life pain-free, was overwhelming.

Flash forward a few years, and my husband and I live such a full and happy life together, and we talk often of how much we love our childfree life.

We feel such freedom and have so much time to just simply love each other without distractions, and it’s so beautiful. We wouldn’t have it any other way.