“We realised how important it was to live our life for ourselves, and not for other people.”
After working as a teacher and nanny and getting my masters degree in child development, my husband and I decided that we didn’t actually want children, and we’re only fulfilling familial expectations.
I recently had my tubes removed by my (rare) incredibly supportive doctor, and the freedom that this affords is immeasurable.
My husband and I both work as worker advocates, through union and community organising. I specifically advocate for domestic workers, which consist largely of women of colour and immigrants.
Working as a labor organiser involves an incredibly irregular schedule, often working evenings and weekends with frequent travel. My husband and I would not be able to advocate for marginalised workers and contribute to our community if we had children.
I also have issues with chronic fatigue, and realised early on that I do not have the energy reserves to take proper care of myself and a child.
My husband and I also work as comedy performers and coaches, which also requires evening availability, and is a crucial creative outlet for both us.
Because of my time in childcare, we have many children in our life, as well as an incredibly spoiled Great Pyrenees named Udon.
We realised how important it was to live our life for ourselves, and not for other people, because at the end of the day, we are the ones who will be living it, not them.
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