WE ARE CHILDFREE

I guess I am childfree by choice. I was never overly enamoured at the thought of being pregnant and the thought of having something living and growing inside of me kind of freaked me out.

I never thought I’d meet anyone and when I did, he had two children from a previous marriage and wasn’t keen on having any more. I did hum and haw for a while as l wondered, what if I have regrets…?

I had an ovary removed due to a large cyst about 14 years ago, so I guess my chances would have been reduced anyway.

I’m 49 now and am getting more comfortable with my decision, and the realisation that having children wouldn’t have been the right choice. I love my niece and nephews dearly but I always like to get home to my childfree, pup-loving home.

Being childfree allows me to have the space I need for myself and my husband and dog. I’m also becoming more aware of the things I can do and that I can allow myself to do, little things like nights out, doing courses etc. I’m also starting to feel more confident in my decision and I think following We are Childfree has helped me accept that it’s okay to not have children.

I am lucky in that I do have close friends with children and friends that are also childfree so I have a space where it’s not all chat about children.