“We are excited about adventures we are planning.”
“It means that we can manage on my single income - I'd worry about the strain on our health to both be working full-time if we had a child.”
Alex: I never met anyone I wanted to have kids with – my life hasn’t been very secure, which I now know is down to being autistic.
When I met Tom I had finally started considering having kids. I was considering co-parenting with a friend but in April 2020 I got sick with covid and
never fully recovered. I realised kids would be impossible for me.
I have niblings I LOVE spending time with but I tire easily and I can see that being a full-time parent isn’t feasible with how my health is.
Tom and I often talk about what a childfree future looks like, I’m excited about adventures in the new car camping set up we are planning. I love visiting new places and hopefully this means I can travel and accommodate my health.
Tom: I had never wanted kids – it was never
something that crossed my mind.
I was too busy looking after myself let alone having dependents. When I met Alex, they really wanted kids but I wasn’t sure, and when their health declined I knew that the caretaking would sit with me if Alex never recovered.
As an introverted person, I have always needed a lot of time to myself and being childfree means I
can have this, and this really helps me manage my mental health.
It also means that we can manage on my single income – I’d worry about the strain on our health to both be working full-time if we had a child.
I’m currently learning to drive so that Alex and I can explore and visit family/friends. We’re hoping one day to do a campervan conversion so we
can go even further.
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