“I’ve been having a hard time as a trans guy seeking gender-affirming healthcare.”
“I shouldn't have to wax lyrical about how much I love kids in order to be seen as being childfree for the 'right reasons'.”
I’ve known I would never want to have kids from a very young age, and I have zero regrets or anxieties about that on a personal level.
Being autistic means I’m pretty much immune to the social pressures involved, which I’m grateful for. This decision has many reasons, but the biggest are that I know too well how damaging it is to have parents who aren’t cut out for the job, and that I’m extremely uncomfortable around young kids.
However, I’m now reaching the age when friends and similar-age relatives are starting to have kids,
and I’m honestly terrified. Being around young kids reliably sends me into autistic meltdown and I’m not capable of faking it when people try to get me into those conversations, so I’m worried I’m headed for a very socially-isolated life in the near future.
Honestly, I’m tired of feeling shut out by even a lot of childfree-by-choice people in my life and online. I see/hear people discussing so many aspects of this
“lifestyle” but often the statement that you just don’t like to be around kids is viewed very negatively – like they think it means you
wish harm on children. I shouldn’t have to wax lyrical about how much I love kids in order to be seen as being childfree for the “right” reasons.
I’ve also been having a hard time as a trans guy seeking gender-affirming healthcare, because clinicians constantly ask me why I don’t want my eggs frozen or anything like that, and asking a million times if I’m REALLY sure. It’s not their business and they’re in no position to convince me to do otherwise.
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