“Reminder: women owe you nothing.”
“Being childfree affords me the space to properly care for my mind and body, to delve into my passions, and that is the best kind of rebellion.”
When I was a child, my friends and I used to talk about having kids someday (super weird, but such is the culture we live in).
I said it because others were saying it, but felt empty when talking about it. I always assumed that when I was older I would want it, but that day and desire never came.
I’ve known since I was a teenager that I didn’t want kids. Over the years I’ve become accustomed to people thinking that makes me selfish.
When you tell people that you don’t want kids, they act as though you’re taking something away from them. There’s this completely inappropriate attitude that a woman having kids is everyone’s business – as though she is having a baby for the world.
(Reminder: women owe you nothing. Not kids, sex, affection, kindness, housework, or answers about their personal choices.)
To me, not having kids is one more way to reject the patriarchal beliefs that say we’re only of use when we are creating life or offering value to others; society loves to see women give to others endlessly.
But being childfree means that every day I am becoming more of myself.
It affords me the space to properly care for my mind and body, to delve into my passions, and that is the best kind of rebellion.
It’s a sacred thing, to truly know yourself and tend to yourself. It takes a lifetime – and I’ve got that time.