WE ARE CHILDFREE

I am two years post my childless journey.

I had a hysterectomy in 2024 and became childless due to circumstances because my uterus had extensive problems – fibroids and adenomyosis.

I am moving away from the grief of losing my womb and an operation which has changed my life and removed my ability to have a child. I am trying to come to terms with that and whether or not I wish to go towards fostering in the future.

I always wanted to have children and did not think that I would be childless; a recent realisation. I had to have a hysterectomy as it was causing me pain and hospitalisation. It was a tough decision, and I also had a previous attempt at IVF two years beforehand. Being over 45 meant that for me, childlessness was inevitable and that I had to make a difficult choice for my welfare.

I do creative writing, crafts, yoga, and reading. I am in the process of living my life without a child, which is where I can do creative writing groups online and crafting in my spare time.

I am coming to terms with the grief that I won’t have a child of my own. Fostering perhaps will be the next move; however, for now, I am enjoying my life as best as I can and taking time to heal myself. I am taking time to enjoy activities such as traveling to UK cities, thinking about getting a dog in the near future and maybe moving, which may not have been possible if I had had a child.