WE ARE CHILDFREE

I am 35 years old and beyond happy I am childfree.

I am childfree through both choice and circumstance. I was diagnosed with endometriosis in my teens, and told constantly that it was unlikely I would ever have children.

I lived in misery for 15 years, begging doctors to give me a hysterectomy. I was told over and over again that I ‘might change my mind’… by the same doctors who told me i would never be able to carry a child to term!

Thankfully, I never wanted them, anyway! I never had ‘mommy-urges’, the smell of a baby doesn’t ‘make my uterus throb’, etc. so I never felt robbed of motherhood – I didn’t want it! But telling that to a doctor made no difference – as my worth as a woman is to procreate, or at least pretend like I cared to.

I am currently incredibly strong and confident with my choice, but that’s thanks in large part to communities like We are Childfree.

I used to get stupid comments, back-handed suggestions, weird looks, etc. when I told people
we didn’t want kids. But the second I mentioned I had stage 4 endometriosis and a hysterectomy at 30, they shut up real quick. It saddens me, though. Why should I have to go through a horrendous,
difficult disease in order to be respected for my choice? Why does my medical history even have to be explained in the first place?

I am blessed to be with a partner who also wanted childfree life – we travel internationally often, sleep in on weekends, and have lazy Sundays whenever we want! And I wouldn’t have it any other way.