“When I tried to express my absence of desire to mother, I was never taken seriously.”
I never felt that motherhood was for me but because of the pressure around me and of internalised ideas from society/culture (I was born in Syria), I thought it would change with time.
But here I am at 36 with an amazing career as a doctor, happily married and still not feeling like it is for me. People told me that when I would find Mr Right, when I would finish my studies, when I would marry, the desire would come. When I tried to express my absence of desire to mother, I was never taken seriously.
I realised with time and maturity that I had to listen to my inner voice, but to listen to your podcast and to be connected to that community has made me feel so empowered in my decision. It helped me build confidence in the fact that I am not an alien as people sometimes make me feel and that there are amazing, inspiring women who think like me. Some have different reasons not to have children, but one thing is for sure, I respect all these women in their choice, and I wish I could always feel that respect from others when I share my opinion.
My decision allows me to focus on a career that I love and that brings me a lot of recognition. I can focus on my relationship with an amazing man who understands me. I could talk about this for hours but since I have limited space here, I will end by saying that if there’s anything I can do to make others feel lighter in this decision, let me know! Keep up the good work, it changes lives!
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